A person's life may be 60-70-80 years. But every hour of this life can be lived with a lot of stress and with very little stress. Every action, every sentence, every thought can give him or her - stress or happiness. As we grow up we develop some way of thinking, behaviour, habits, skills and we keep on taking action according to them. Some of us have extra analytical power and experience and they know what things will lead to more happiness then stress. This skill of analysis is called Wisdom.
Here I am going to discuss about 20 simple habits/ actions/ advices/ rules which comes from this wisdom. If one can follow these chances of stress will reduce and possibilities of happiness will increase.
1.Reduce Desires/Expectations Want less & less
Over expectation is the cause of all our stress and sorrow. Most of us have excessive desires and we keep on updating them as the desires get fulfilled. Once our desire gets fulfilled- we don`t get that much happiness as we expected. Then we desire more . It`s a never ending game. So cutting down our desires is the best way to assure peace and happiness.
2. Reduce the cost of pleasure
Money is very important in our life. We have limited resources - and with the inflation going up they are going to short of our requirement. Even people who have plenty of money fall short of money when bad days come. With money we fulfill our needs. But for pleasure we also spend a lot. So, we should always try to compare costs and try to reduce the cost of pleasure while shopping, dining, travelling, spending. Money saved is money earned!
3. Positive thinking
When we start a new effort to achieve our goal- two possibilities exist and these are success and failure If our planning is good, efforts are honest and our feet is in the ground, the chances of success is bright. We should keep a positive mind. Appearing
for interview, going for a business deal, preparing a new recipe - we should always think positively. This doubles our efforts and make the things to happen .
for interview, going for a business deal, preparing a new recipe - we should always think positively. This doubles our efforts and make the things to happen .
4. Understanding other's mindset
Whenever we are with someone - family member, friends or colleague wee should always try to understand their angle of thinking. Best is to place yourself in their position and thing what they want. Even if they talk against you - you can realize why they are doing so. You will be able to appreciate their views and opinion. You can see their problem area and try to solve.
5. No Ego, No Show off - Unnecessarily
In people's life everything is available - money, education, health, family support. But their Ego spoils their happiness. Because of Ego they try to project themselves bigger, more prosperous. This may work for sometimes but is counter - productive on the long term. What you have you can display - but no show off. Fame, prestige, appreciation comes gradually is showing real picture of success and this lasts long.
6. Appreciate others; it makes good will
When people do well, positive things and you can see it - do not ignore. Appreciate them. It may not help you or the person appreciated but creates a good will. So, whenever you see something good - go up, say congratulation and go away without expecting anything in return.
7. No competition in life- go on your own speed
Everyone around us has their own values, principles, goals. They live their life accordingly. Some want more money, some want respect, some only want dignity. They have a goal of life. For this they have put efforts and achieved whatever they are. Don`t try to compare yourself with them. Some business are slow, some fast, some are honest, some dishonest, some have extra luck. So, do not compare. Plan your own growth chart and have the satisfaction of what you have achieved.
8. Avoid Excess of anything
Excess of anything is bad. It may be honesty dishonesty; it may be greed for money or fame; it may be your friendship or enemity; it may be our arrogance or humility. Every thing n excess is not suitable in modern world. Some will not let you shine and some can get you down and give excess stress.
9. Remove clutter - unnecessary tings
In our life we need many things, according to our needs. But we don't discard them once their utility in completed. Even if we have used it 90% and 10% is left - we stior them inn our home, office. Gradually all these unnecessary items remain around us. It`s better to get rid of them. You can sell them, gift them or throw them - but clear your surrounding clutter free. This cuts down some stress in life.
10. Keep some times for yourself
We remain busy in our life. It's good to be busy and productive . We are some times over busy with our work, family, travel, parties and social life. We don't have time to think about ourselves. This can only happen if you remain completely free. So, plan about 2-3 days per month. you can write them down for future references
11. Avoid Luxury, Try frugal life
Those who start staying luxury - often make it a part of life. Then this becomes a burden . They can't adjust in most of the sorrounding. So, we should try to live frugal sometimes - without luxury cars, luxury homes, expensive and designer clothes etc. So, even one have money, prosperity - they must try to live some days in village with ordinary people. This will help them to reduce stresses. They will be able to bear stresses of shortage.
12. Forgive others and Yourself
All of us make mistakes in life. So, will everybody do. If don't forgive them- our mind will be always under pressure. This pressure becomes more when we see them - our mind will be always under pressure. This becomes more when we see them around us and are forced to interact with them. This stress can easily be avoided if we forgive them which helps to clear our mind. Sometimes, we realize our mistakes and suffer because we blame ourselves through out our life, So, it is also better to forgive self. It removes a guilt. To err is human. This is truth for all of us.
13. Overlook imperfections; Over perfection is unbeatable
We have strategies in our life, plans in work or business. If we are able to maintain the perfectness in these plans not only we succeed but also we get a satisfaction. but sometimes our way made something imperfectness which leads stress. So accepting little bit imperfection is okay and recommended which helps to reduce stress. over perfection is unbeatable and not feasible. It leads to excess stress.
14. Practice Gratitude
We must not forget about who helps us in our bed times, even though they forget. and should have to return whenever they really needs help. Our parents and teacher should be in the top of the list to whom we should not forget at any stage of our life.
15. Enjoy Present; Forget past, future to an extent
We always living our now, present. we should have to enjoy this moment - our possessions, facilities, family, health. If we look down, we will see so many people don't have what we have today. Past and Future are always there only for thinking for a while. Don't brood upon the past and do not think of the future too much.
16. Postpone Criticism
We should not interfere in one's life or about their decision, even if we don't like their decision. we should not pass our criticism over there which only leads to bring ill feelings between relationships.
17. Learn to say No
People around you, your friends and relatives will always try to influence your actions, decisions. If you try to follow all of them you will be confused and often land up doing "what you would have never done" on your own. So, listen to their suggestions, but take your own decision. Don't let them cut you in shape. If you don't want to do something, stay firm. Say "NO" otherwise you will suffer in life.
18. Keep some secrets with in yourself
All of us do mistakes in life, at some stage or other. People may not know about them. We don't want any one o know about these mistakes. Let them remain secret, deep within yourself. It is not needed that you must share your secrets with every one, or anyone. Such secrets, if divulged, may influence your life today. A past love affair, stealing something in past, lending money to someone etc.
19. Logic does not work always- not all things in life has reasoning
Reasoning and logic are basis of all happening inn life. Mostly they can explain what is going to happen in future. But our life has so many facets, so many things influence happening in our daily life. So many different kind mind are around us with different logic. Even we can`t figure them out wholly. So sometime its better to accept being luckiest enough.
20. GOD keeps all of us Deprived - somewhere or other
All the needs usually don't happens to every one. if you have good supporting family but you may have bed healths. Life is all about bunch of +ve and -ve , where we have to accept that God keeps us deprived some where or other -- otherwise you will not worship Him. So agree to some deficiency in life.
